By: Kate Devine Twitter: @katiedevinee Instagram: @katedevinee
Let’s take a trip back in time to my first day of junior year of high school.
I am sitting in Mrs. Kelly’s classroom, ready to flaunt my new Vera Bradley pencil case for the world to see*. (Yes- I was one of those girls.) After helping pass out all of the unnecessary forms, I saunter back to my desk to check out my schedule that was just passed out. Double-checking to see that everything is correct, I immediately start to stress out over the course load I picked out. 3 APs and all Honors? (Weird brag, much?) I look over to my friend sitting next to me and say something to the effect of, “Wow, it’s going to be a rough year.”
Hoping to find some reassurance from my friend, I instead get slapped in the face with, “You’re not taking AP Chem, so don’t even complain.”
Don’t even complain? My mind started to wander a mile a minute. Am I not taking hard enough classes? Do people think I’m stupid for taking AP Bio over AP Chem?
If I could tell my Junior year self anything, it would be two things:
- Vera Bradley ain’t it.
- You are smart enough!
I, for one, thought that this toxic competition of classes had ended in high school, but unfortunately, it only gets worse in college.
As a Biology major, I constantly hear my peers complaining about our major and how they wish it was easier, like the Criminal Justice major. Meanwhile, my friend, a CJ major, service learns 30 hours a week for one of her courses and takes intense research classes each semester.
Newsflash: It doesn’t matter what major you are, college is hard for everyone!
Am I always 100% understanding of this concept? Absolutely not! If you scroll through my Twitter likes, you are most certainly going to find some hilarious content mocking nursing majors or business majors.
As finals season has unfortunately come around the corner once again, here are a few handy reminders.
The fact of the matter is we all have challenging, time-consuming homework. We all have crazy professors. College is hard, because it is supposed to be!
College is meant to challenge you. If you think college is difficult, then you are on the right track! If you hate college and truly believe you aren’t getting anything beneficial from it, it might be time to think more on what you are passionate about and if your current course load reflects that.
Some of my friends tell me how they can’t imagine having two three-hour labs each week, but, I couldn’t imagine college without it. On the other hand, the idea of writing multiple essays a week like my English major friends do, makes my skin crawl. College reels out our skills and strengthens them. Not all of us have the same skills, and that is normal.
Why do we find it normal to compete with each other about who has it worse?
Being proud of being more stressed or ‘having it worse’ isn’t just something that applies to school. Unfortunately, we see this twisted ideology all throughout our society. We find it cool to be sadder than others, broker than others, lonelier than others. When are we going to stop competing with each other’s struggles and instead acknowledge the fact that we all have them and should help each other get through theirs?
Maybe one day we can stop being Negative Nancies and Debby Downers and instead be normal college students, all trying to make it by, together. In the meantime, you can find me minding my own business and shading nursing majors.
Good luck on your finals and remember you always know more than you think you know.